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Relationship Tips

  • When communicating with your partner on an issue you disagree on, try your best to understand your partners’ perspective. Not understanding where they are coming from can cause gridlock in the relationship and you don’t want that! Start by asking, “I’m curious, why do you feel that way?” or "Tell me why that's important to you, help me to understand." Then tell them why you feel the way you do. This can be a powerful way to open up the dialogue between you so you can come to a compromise. 

  • One thing that can cause a relationship to decline is getting too comfortable. One tip is to greet each other every day in a special way. Maybe you spend a moment dancing with your partner when you get home after work, or you tell them how much you love them, or one special thing you love about them. This keeps the joy, excitement and love alive.  What is one thing you can do to keep your relationship feeling special?

  • Have two minutes of uninterrupted connection time daily. Maybe when you wake up in the morning, or after breakfast, you set aside just TWO minutes to connect, uninterrupted, to talk about what is coming up for the day, your hopes for each other for the day, or even what concerns you might have for the day, that you can support each other with. This creates a deeper connection for the day, and you can talk about how the day went in the evening.

  • Have a daily appreciation ritual. We tend to take those we love most for granted, which can lead to resentment. Take just a couple minutes at the end of each day to appreciate one another for what your partner has done for you and your family that day. And thank them throughout the day as well so your partner knows they are loved, and appreciated for all their hard work. It might sound something like "Thank you for taking out the trash, I really feel supported and I appreciate you."

  • Active listening is key to a happy, healthy relationship, whether that be with a significant other, family member or friend. We tend to only half listen when others are talking, be distracted by something else, or be thinking of how to respond. Instead of half listening, pay full attention to what the other person is saying, and restate what they said, so they know you heard them. For example, “it sounds like you are upset with me for forgetting....” or “I hear you saying ...., am I understanding you right?” And take the conversation from there. Active listening will bring you closer to your partner, and can resolve issues in a much easier, calmer way. Of course, like many communication skills, it takes practice, but the more you do it, the easier it will get!

  • Do you know your future spouse's "Love Language?" There is a wonderful book called "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, in which he teaches us that every person has their own "love language" and your relationship can get deeper and improve tremendously if you learn your own and their love language.  Want to learn your love language? Do this with your partner and you can learn a lot about one another, get closer and improve your relationship! Take the quiz here...

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